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"The Lost,lonely and tired boy"
He had friends from all over.
Primary school mates,
secondary school mates,
church mates and
friends whom he got to know through other friends, etc.
Relationships that were built over weeks, months and years,
how easily such relationships change.
Some grow while others deteriorate.
Those that grow, are hard to find and even harder to maintain.
As for those that deteriorate,
it is more often the 'distance factor' than anything else that is the cause.
The 'distance factor' does not only refer to the geographical distance between two or more subjects.
Many a times, a lot of other reasons play roles bigger than they should in the 'distance factor'.
These are just a brief few:
Stagnancy
Drifting
Problems
Quarrels
Fights
Arguments
Lack of resolution
Time
Priority
Negligence
I believe that there are a whole lot of other words that can be used to describe why most relationships fail but i am not going to rack my brains just to name you all.
With these things happening close to all-the-time, we as humans, weak and frail, tend to get caught up in such happenings. We cannot hide from it, neither can we avoid them, trying to run away from them will prove futile, you won't even stand a chance.
What then, can we do?
Simple, we deal with it!
"Easier said than done", such a phrase, how commonly used yet so applicable to most, if not all situations.
How can i handle it?
I don't know the answer to that.
Seek Him for strength, wisdom, boldness, love, patience, kindness, hindsight, courage etc.
All of us posses such traits, we were all born with it, whether we choose to believe so or not. It is how we choose to cultivate these gifts that will set us apart from the others. Those that embrace it and apply it in the right manner will grow, those that choose to be in self-denial and wallow in self-pity will fail in life, these are the ones that waste their life away.
As hard as it is to accept, we are more than often, the latter. Until we choose to take a stand and go against the flow of culture, we will not rise up, we will just fall into pit after pit and dig our own graves. Then there are the others, who have somehow managed to step out of their bubble to fend for their lives as well as others' with what gifting they own and have nurtured.
These people are most likely to be leaders and supporters. Leaders lead while supporters support, not too difficult to understand the nature of their roles. However, what the important thing to note is that there are no 'followers' in the picture. You either choose to assist with whatever means you have or you choose to rise up and grab the responsibility of having to lead the pact. Followers drift away, lose sight of the pact and die out, exhausted, lost and alone.
Too much time has been wasted, you need to choose a role to fill, struggle like a fly caught in mucus and as you do so, you will grow and learn more than you'd ever if you chose to simply give up.
-Le Star-
drainedPrimary school mates,
secondary school mates,
church mates and
friends whom he got to know through other friends, etc.
Relationships that were built over weeks, months and years,
how easily such relationships change.
Some grow while others deteriorate.
Those that grow, are hard to find and even harder to maintain.
As for those that deteriorate,
it is more often the 'distance factor' than anything else that is the cause.
The 'distance factor' does not only refer to the geographical distance between two or more subjects.
Many a times, a lot of other reasons play roles bigger than they should in the 'distance factor'.
These are just a brief few:
Stagnancy
Drifting
Problems
Quarrels
Fights
Arguments
Lack of resolution
Time
Priority
Negligence
I believe that there are a whole lot of other words that can be used to describe why most relationships fail but i am not going to rack my brains just to name you all.
With these things happening close to all-the-time, we as humans, weak and frail, tend to get caught up in such happenings. We cannot hide from it, neither can we avoid them, trying to run away from them will prove futile, you won't even stand a chance.
What then, can we do?
Simple, we deal with it!
"Easier said than done", such a phrase, how commonly used yet so applicable to most, if not all situations.
How can i handle it?
I don't know the answer to that.
Seek Him for strength, wisdom, boldness, love, patience, kindness, hindsight, courage etc.
All of us posses such traits, we were all born with it, whether we choose to believe so or not. It is how we choose to cultivate these gifts that will set us apart from the others. Those that embrace it and apply it in the right manner will grow, those that choose to be in self-denial and wallow in self-pity will fail in life, these are the ones that waste their life away.
As hard as it is to accept, we are more than often, the latter. Until we choose to take a stand and go against the flow of culture, we will not rise up, we will just fall into pit after pit and dig our own graves. Then there are the others, who have somehow managed to step out of their bubble to fend for their lives as well as others' with what gifting they own and have nurtured.
These people are most likely to be leaders and supporters. Leaders lead while supporters support, not too difficult to understand the nature of their roles. However, what the important thing to note is that there are no 'followers' in the picture. You either choose to assist with whatever means you have or you choose to rise up and grab the responsibility of having to lead the pact. Followers drift away, lose sight of the pact and die out, exhausted, lost and alone.
Too much time has been wasted, you need to choose a role to fill, struggle like a fly caught in mucus and as you do so, you will grow and learn more than you'd ever if you chose to simply give up.
-Le Star-
hungry
determined
excited
hopeful
crushed
lethargic
apathetic